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Aside from the hometown dates, the overnight dates are just as fun to watch and the most important time for the relationships. This is the make or break for each relationship because it’s no longer about how much fun each person is but whether or not they could be a husband or wife. You can see that transition in Andi and why she had to let Chris go even though he seems like the perfect catch.

There are two really strong and very different relationships formed in Nick and in Josh.

Nick and Andi were able to spend some quality time hanging out on their own private beach (The best!) and I’m not going to lie, I really like these two together as I’m seeing the connection and chemistry transpire. She had an instant connection with Nick that first night and it’s telling to see that the connection has continued. So often the initial ‘connection’ is typically just an attraction that can fade after the first few weeks. If you are thinking about a husband and someone that will be with you for life then you definitely want to have a mental connection, someone who understands you completely and someone who is passionate. Those qualities are lasting and the exact things Andi said she feels about Nick.

I found Nick to be charming and sweet on this date and I like the fact that he says he learned a lot from his last breakup and is ok with giving Andi his all regardless of the outcome. That is the only way the process can work and for Andi to find out who she really needs in her life. Nick’s love for Andi is apparent in the way that he looks at her. Andi mentioned a couple times that their relationship felt like an ‘adult romance’ and well, to me that is what a lasting marriage looks like. Yes, you can have fun and be goofy (that keeps the passion alive) but as for getting through differences or being able to discuss important milestones there has to be a maturity and an openness in both to understand where each other are coming from.

Sometimes emotional connections we feel can be confusing because they do not look like or feel like the connections of attraction that most relationships start on.  They are definitely a more important type of connection though, needed for a lasting love. Infatuation can be debilitating in a relationship after a few years because attraction can overpower emotional growth at times. This is where the mind and the heart battle each other.

Anyways, Nick’s story book was adorable and very thoughtful. It was his way of sharing his feelings and how much he cares for her. I do wish he just came right out and said that he loved her but it’s hard to be in the men’s shoes because they know that she can’t reciprocate those words.

Josh and Andi are a beautiful couple together. They both seem to suit the other just right, at least in appearances they do for sure. Josh is always so happy around Andi and it’s endearing to see how much he loves her. His affectionate alone speaks volumes to how he feels for her. You can tell that he is the protective kind of guy and will be her rock when she needs him to be, so for all of those reasons I like Josh for Andi. Another thing that I noticed is how he tells her he loves her with such conviction and confidence as if it wasn’t the first time he’s said it to her. I liked that he wasn’t afraid to tell her that he loves her and wanted to make sure she knew that.

While Andi is sitting with Josh at night, her demeanor and mind seemed really conflicted and I can understand why. Here sits ‘the man of her dreams’ I am sure, everything she could ever wanted, telling her how much he cares about her, while her past experiences with other men, that were professional athletes, worries her because she doesn’t want to go down that same path to heartbreak. I would say she has nothing to worry about with Josh. The way that he adores her and has never felt the way he does with her will keep him as a loyal partner.

The two words that Andi kept using to describe her relationship with Josh was ‘young & vibrant’. With that said, I can see where some other concerns lie in her relationship with Josh and being able to have serious conversations or get through differences. A relationship can’t maintain on fun alone, there has to be maturity there for a solid foundation to get through life together and to grow. I can see these two working out though and think that daily life together would bring out more of the serious side to Josh and that would create a perfect balance for the two of them. He brings out her goofy side while she brings out his more emotional and serious side. Win, win.

Now on to Chris. I knew that his goodbye was coming from the beginning of the episode. You could tell in how she described each guy and each relationship. With Nick and Josh she described how they made her feel while with Chris she just named off all of his qualities. That was a telling sign that she wasn’t as far in with him as the other men. Chris is such a sweetheart and why it was so hard for Andi to say goodbye but I’m glad that she did when she did. When you are already this far along with other relationships, it’s not fair to keep someone around as their feelings progress if you know it’s not right. She did the right thing in letting him go and I can only hope that he finds what he is looking for. Possibly on television?

I’m excited for next week and Men Tell All. It’s fun to see how the guys change their perspectives after watching the show back. Should be interesting! Until next week…

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Well, well, well. I am finally back with ‘The Bachelorette’ recaps just in time to meet the families of the 4 remaining men. Moving, traveling and summertime distractions have taken over my Monday night Bachelorette viewing but I vow to never let that happen again. Although I totally missed out on all the other farewells and the steamy connections that were forming, it’s pretty obvious where Andi’s heart lies and I don’t think the other guys ever stood a chance in comparison.

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Let’s begin with the first hometown date that took us to Milwaukee. I have been missing some of the drama with Nick but I’m not a fool and can tell that he is pretty possessive of Andi. In his mind there are no other men vying for her heart because he thinks he already has her. Confidence is key when on this show but a little too much is known as arrogance so I’m interested to see where their relationship goes. Any who.. Andi and Nick have a great time checking out the spots in his city. They go to his local brewery where he had a custom brew made for them although I’m sure ‘the Perfect Brew’ was just Coors Light or something, but hey it’s the thought that counts.

Nick has an enormous family! I still couldn’t keep up with how many total but there were definitely a lot of pictures on the wall. His family seems very sweet and sincere but also concerned for him. He has been hurt in the past and they don’t want to see that happen again. Understandably. It was precious how his sister got a bit emotional and protective and how his little sister asked Andi some hard questions but totally forgot the answers. Nick and Andi seem to have a great connection and comfortable relationship established so he’s definitely one of her favs. She has liked him from the start but there’s something to say about a guy that other guys don’t like. It usually doesn’t translate well when in a relationship.

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Chris. The Farmer. I think Chris is a wonderful, kind, and respectful man but I just can’t picture Andi on a farm..? She seemed hesitant and not excited about the possibility of living in Iowa and almost doubtful that it could even work. She is used to a different lifestyle (as are most people who don’t live on a farm) and that would be a huge transition to handle. I feel you girl. Although peaceful I’m not sure I would be cut out for the country… I love cities too much.

I do believe that when you are in love it doesn’t matter where you live as long as you are with that person, but at the same time there are going to be compromises that have to happen and it can only work if both are willing to accept them. I’m not sure if the emotional passion is there between them for a compromise like that to work, but here’s to hoping because he does seem like a great catch. His family was the sweetest and I love that they all support him and trust him to the fullest. That helps a lot if they are going to become her family too.

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Andi and Josh. These two are smitten for each other. By far Andi was the most excited to see Josh over any of the other guys, it was written all over her face and demeanor, whether you want to believe it or not. They are both googly eyed when together and it’s charming that Josh is a beefy guy but a softy when it comes to Andi. He adores her! Josh took notes from my Chris and took Andi to the ball-field to play a little baseball. It seems like every season of ‘The Bachelorette’ consists of a hometown date at a baseball field by an ex-baseball player and so far it’s been good luck for those guys so let’s see if that luck continues.

As soon as Andi walks into Josh’s parents house, I can’t seem to find her because she blends right in with his family! She looks like she belongs IN the family by looks alone. I mean couldn’t Josh’s mom resemble Andi when she was her age? Pretty interesting but none the less, a gorgeous family. His family is extremely tight net and they do everything together which seems like a concern to Andi during her visit. I liked that Josh’s sister was honest about it and said that they will have to compromise when it came to weekends and seeing family but she’s right, that’s what marriage is all about. You can’t bring two families together without having to choose one at certain times with conflicting events/holidays/etc.

It’s convenient that Josh and Andi live the closest to each other – compared to the other men and may be a deciding factor when it comes down to it.

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Marcus. The Sweetheart. There is so much kindness and love in Marcus’s pearly blue eyes that I can’t help but want him to find love. His striptease was a perfect contrast to his more reserved personality and showed a boldness that I think Andi needed to see. It’s apparent that his feelings are further along than hers and that is always a concern when there are other men in the mix. She admits that her feelings aren’t there yet to his sister, almost as a way of letting her know Marcus isn’t the one.

The tearjerker of the night was when Chris Harrison had to break the news to everyone about Eric Hill’s death. What terrible news to hear after a great week of dates. Eric’s life inspires many and his passing will never be forgotten. The loss of someone you know definitely puts the perspective on what is important, not a rose or another date, but of a fulfilled life, living in the moment. Just like Eric lived his. Andi was definitely taken back by the news and I can’t imagine her thoughts as she re-lived their last conversation. The remorse and sadness was apparent and I’m sure that was hard to deal with while also having to send another person home.

That other person was Marcus and I felt for him as he left heartbroken, teary eyed and defeated. He is such a gentle soul that will be an adoring husband and caring father.  I truly hope that he finds the right girl because he deserves it.

Until next week… Carry on.

 

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Ok, ok, before I get to the meat and potatoes of ‘The Bachelorette’ episode Monday night, I have to get through the veggies of it… so follow along.

One-on-One: Trains and whistles

Andi chooses Dylan for the first one-on-one which is a time for him to tell Andi about his brother and sister that both passed away. It’s a very moving story and will forever be apart of his life so it’s good that he told her. It’s not easy to hear someone pour their heart out about something tragic that has happened in their life but Dylan was open and candid and that kind of vulnerability is important when on this show. To make progress in any relationship walls have to come down to let each other in and since things are accelerated while on The Bachelorette, you have to be willing to break down those walls a whole lot faster than normal. I’m not seeing any sparks or much chemistry between the two of them but am looking forward to see where their relationship goes.

Group Date: Free-throw and a miss

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There always has to be a competitive group date. These type of dates can show a man’s true colors if he is more focused on winning and not on the girl he is supposed to be vying for… and it’s just fun to watch grown men compete against each other. Right!!?

Side note: I remember when we had the dodgeball date last season and the one thing that stuck out about Chris was that he was focused more on helping me learn how to throw the ball rather than being better than the other guys that were practicing. I just remembered that and makes me smile, but now back to the date.

Unfortunately the losing team had to go back to the house as ‘losers’ while the winning team got to spend a lot more time with Andi. I’m not sure if I am a fan of this philosophy because every single second is important when trying to figure out who is going to be right for you and that time is limited if half of the men are sent home. But at the same time, that means more time for the men that are there which is equally important. So I suppose it is a win-win either way. To each its own.

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Eric and Andi’s time alone seems awkward and not at all where some of the other relationships are.  I thought that they had good chemistry on that first date but chemistry can fade if forgotten. I got the feeling that Andi was irritated when she first starting chatting with him and I’m not sure it got much better by the time they finished talking. I think it’s irritation from a relationship not progressing and that is understandable. Relationships are a two way street so just as much as Eric needs to be open, Andi needs to be open as well in talking about her life, desires, goals. We didn’t see some of the other times they have had together so it’s hard to judge anything based off of that last time but it was obvious that they’re not on the same page.

You can base the other relationships and connections off of the most natural connection she has thus far, with Nick. They act like a couple, which they should, and she always pulls him in more while kissing which is an obvious sign of attraction, that comes with chemistry. She just seems the most comfortable with him which is an even better sign for potential. Like I said before, I’m keeping my eye on these two.

I love when someone comes out of nowhere and makes their way onto the radar. That someone I’m talking about is Brian. He was definitely overlooked in the past couple episodes so it’s nice to see another connection being formed. I’ll have to wait for a one-one-one to get a better read but seems like a genuine guy with genuine intentions.

One-on-one Date: You can do it.

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Marcus, sweet soft-spoken Marcus. I’m so glad that Marcus got a one-one-one because it gave him the confidence that he needed to make a difference in their relationship. Being on the side of a building is terrifying and for someone who isn’t afraid of heights, I could barely ease myself over the edge of a smaller building than Andi’s skyscraper, so I know how easy it is to want to say no and get down. Good thing Andi had a great partner there to help encourage her to keep at it and eventually repel down. He seriously talked her off the ledge.

They had a good dinner date and their conversations seem to flow naturally.  I feel like there is still more to this relationship that we will see later but it makes me nervous for Marcus considering that he already has admitted to falling in love with Andi. She still has however many guys there that she is figuring out so her feelings towards him may not be at the same speed just yet. We will see what happens.

Now moving on to the man of the night, Eric.

It took a lot for Eric to approach the conversation with Andi about how he had been feeling. I truly don’t think he had any intention on insulting her and it was disappointing to see how it turned out. I tried to put myself in Andi’s shoes to see how I would have reacted if one of the guys said those things to me and truthfully I’m not sure. The days and weeks for the Bachelor or Bachelorette are completely exhausting. Mentally and emotionally draining as you try to sort out the guy’s feelings and your own while being fatigued. It can be hard dating just one guy let alone 15 so I do feel for her when she breaks down. The truth of the matter is that you do have to be on a schedule, a regimen full of dates, interviews and conversations, along  with the added pressure to say the right thing and do the right thing while staying true to yourself. It’s hard to juggle that pressure because well, it’s not a normal dating environment.

Eric’s comments struck a deeper nerve with Andi and is why she reacted the way she did. Nobody wants to be called ‘fake’ or ‘a TV actress’ especially when you are trying your hardest to just be awake and aware at all times of the day. Eric didn’t mean to say that she was a ‘fake’ person but that there are times when he couldn’t see the same Andi that was on their first date. It’s not being fake, he was just seeing different sides and that is normal in this given environment. Andi can’t be the fun loving girl she is when she is at a rose ceremony about to send someone home, and can’t be flirty with just one guy while all the guys are around. There is a lot to being the lead that is beyond what you see and every lead will handle it differently. That is the beauty of individuality!

There was no letting up or redeeming the conversation once Andi was offended so I felt for Eric because he wouldn’t be able to explain what he meant without hurting her more. Sometimes things are just lost in translation but there was no coming back from that conversation. I never wanted to see Eric go home because he seemed like such a wonderful guy with an adventurous and loving spirit. It breaks my heart that he has passed but his love for life will continue on. He was put on this show for a reason and I believe that reason is to show you and I how to live life to the fullest. Thank you Eric. RIP Our prayers are with his friends and family.

I was hoping that Eric’s life would have been commemorated more at the end but it was good that they chose to address it rather than not mention it at all.  I would like to honor his life with a simple collage and you can find out more about his life and foundation at GowithEric.com

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