Should We Have a First Look? #AskDes


Thanks for meeting me here this fall Wednesday! I’m happy to have you as I answer your top wedding planning questions. I hope that you, like me, have a Pumpkin Spice Latte in hand. If not, feel free to go run out and get one–I’ll be here when you get back.

Is it just me or does time feel like time is just flying? The past month, I went to three different bridal markets, debuted my Heirloom Collection, moved Asher into his big boy room, and now planning for his second birthday party that’s taking place this weekend! It’s been crazy busy (to say the least) in the Siegfried household, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. In many ways, this past month has showed me how vital it is for me to be creative and design. As a mother, I think it’s important that I show Asher how to follow his dreams. When you become a parent, it’s so easy to set aside your passions (and that’s an okay thing to do for different seasons. The year leading up to Asher’s birth, I focused on getting ready to be a mom) but always remember to come back to them!

Onto the questions:

@tessarohell3 asks: Should we have a first look?

First looks (when the bride and groom meet up before the ceremony to enjoy a private moment and get their bridal portraits taken) have grown in popularity these past few years. It’s a personal choice but, if you are struggling to decide, here are some things to consider. If you feel like you might be anxious the morning of the wedding and that seeing your groom will calm your nerves, a first look could be just the thing you need to enjoy the rest of the day. Also, if you are working with a tight timeline, a first look can save you an hour or so since you can take your bridal portraits then. However, if you are more traditional or want to sweep your guy off his feet when you walk down the aisle, you might want to skip the first look and make your grand entrance at the ceremony. No matter what you choose, there is no wrong answer–only the “right” thing for you and your groom.

@lavenderfeelssss asks: What side of the alter do we stand on during the ceremony?

Typically, the bride stands on the left of the alter. This is a historical tradition that comes from medieval times, started because it leaves the groom’s “sword hand” free, should combat break out at the wedding. Given that your groom probably won’t have a sword at your wedding (and that combat is unlikely to occur), you can feel free to swap spots if the right side just so happens to be your good side! However, if you are getting married in a religious ceremony, check with your officiant beforehand to make sure that switching spots at the alter is okay with them.

@aleebee43 asks: Can I wear my engagement ring during the ceremony?

This is another one of those things that is up to you–but here are some of your options! You can take the ring off completely, wear it on your right hand, or have your groom slip your wedding band on top of it during the vows. The only thing I would suggest is to decide ahead of time to avoid any confusion and make plans. If you are taking it off, you’ll want to give it to your maid of honor so you can retrieve it before leaving the wedding (after all, you’ll want to be able to flash that sparkly on the honeymoon, along with your newly added wedding band) and if you want your groom to put your wedding band on top of it, you’ll want to give him a heads up so he knows what to expect.

That’s it for this week! Come by next Wednesday for more questions and answers.



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