What is the Right Way to Address Wedding Invitations? #AskDes


Happy Hump Day! It’s the time of the week where I answer your wedding planning and styling questions that you submitted online using the hashtag #AskDes.

I’ve been hard at work on the new Desiree Hartsock Bridal wedding gown collection! This past year, I’ve seen my gowns on the runway, in advertisements, and, most importantly, on you brides. It’s been so fun and it’s really informed my process as I approach my next full wedding gown collection. So what can you expect? Bold style options for you fashionista brides, timeless shapes for you classic brides, and a whole lot of love for everyone all around. I can’t wait until these dresses are out my sketchbook and in the real world, where they can be part of your happily ever after.

Today’s question? Invitations!

Stasia asks: What is the right way to address wedding invitations?

Make sure your invitations get where they need to go–and that they follow proper wedding etiquette. For starters, skip abbreviations (for example, write out streets and states. So “Avenue” instead of Ave. and “California” instead of CA) and put the return address on the envelope flap.

To a single person:

Ms. Anna Harris (use Ms. if the friend is over 18 and Miss if she is under 18)


If you wish to give them a plus-one, address the inner return envelope to Ms. Anna Harris and Guest. Depending on your budget, you can extend plus-ones to all your single friends or, if you have budget and space constraints (or simply wish to have a more intimate wedding), you can extend plus-ones only to friends who are in relationships exceeding six months.

To a married couple:

Mr. and Mrs. Charles Smith (so basically Mr. and Mrs. followed by the husband’s first and last name)


If you wish to include their children–don’t include the children’s names on the envelope. Their names will appear on the inner return envelope beneath their parents names, starting with the oldest child and followed by the siblings in order of age.

To a married couple with different last names:

Ms. Caroline Lewis and Mr. Ronald Drake


If they are unmarried but living together, write their names on separate lines and omit the “and.”

To a doctor and spouse:

If the doctor is the man, write:

Dr. and Mrs. Henry Collins


If it is the woman, write:

Dr. Anne Collins and Mr. Henry Collins


SIDE NOTE: these are the traditional rules for invitation addressing. However, if your wedding is casual or you want a relaxed feel, you can skip the titles and just use first and last names.

On the search for the perfect invitations? Visit my Stationary Pinterest Board for the latest paperie trends!



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