How Can I Narrow Down the Guest List? #AskDes


It’s been a wedding planning week for brides as we received many questions on social media! I will do my best to get to all of them so come back each Wednesday for another set of questions and answers.

This past month has been really exciting for me. I styled and oversaw the photo shoot for my soon-to-be-released wedding gown collection at the Cave B Inn & Spa Resort in Washington. There, I was truly moved as I saw my gowns on the models. Each and every detail was just as I envisioned it: the fabrics seemed to float on the air and the bead work caught the light in a soft and subtle way. It was a meaningful moment because this collection truly represents my own journey, from being a bridal stylist at a wedding salon way back before The Bachelor to creating an entire collection of gowns for the brides I so love. I can’t wait to share these gowns with you!

Now to the questions:

@girlpower1234 asks: How can I narrow down my guest list?

This is such a common problem! After all, it’s your wedding and you want ALL your nearest and dearest to be there. However, you may discover that your budget can’t accommodate everyone or that your venue has limited space. If that’s the case, separate your invite list into an A List and B List. Start by prioritizing your family and closest friends–they go on the A List. Then, expand out to colleagues, people from college, and old high school friends–they will make up the B List. When you get a Regret from someone on the A List, send an invite to someone on the B List. You really want to invite the people who have been in your life and will still be in your life fifteen years from now. If you take that approach, it should be easier to slash your headcount. You can also limit the Plus Ones (especially if its your cousin’s girlfriend of two months who you’ve never met) and put the kibosh on kids.

@Harlowbride675 asks: What if I don’t want kids at the wedding?

This is a personal choice and is all about the atmosphere you want at your wedding. If you decide that you want your wedding to be kid-free, then be sure to address your invitations to the parents only (for example, the invite will read Mr. and Mrs. Smith instead of The Smith Family) and fill out the number on their RSVP ahead of time with a 2. This should communicate that the littles need to be left at home. If you’re nervous that your preferences will be ignored, you can include a line in your invite that reads “Adult Only Affair” or, if you want to be more subtle, you can have a family member spread the word.

@frankieinseattle asks: Is it necessary to have flower girls and ring bearers?

When figuring out your bridal party, you may discover that you just aren’t close to anyone with little kids. If that’s the case, don’t fret! You can easily skip these two roles (or, alternatively, its completely acceptable to have one but not the other) by having the Best Man hold the rings and instructing your florist to sprinkle the aisle with petals ahead of time. You can also get creative–I saw a couple use their two dogs as their “flower girl” and “ring bearer” and, at another wedding, the couple chose to have their junior bridesmaid hand out long-stem flowers to the people sitting in the aisle seats as a twist on the flower girl concept.

Thanks for following and asking your questions. Don’t forget to come back each Wednesday for more wedding planning and styling questions answered.

xoxo, Des

Photography Rachel Solomon

  • Share