Flower girls are such a divine part of weddings! From their little dresses to their little faces, they add such pint-sized sweetness to your day. But while they may be tiny, their day-of role is anything but! So, with that in mind, we’ve included everything you need to know about the tiniest member of your bridal party. After reading this, you’ll be able to focus on just how cute your flower girl is and not on where she’s supposed to be or what she’s supposed to be doing!
Picking your little lady
First things first! Since your flower girl is (presumably) a young child, be sure to ask her parents first, especially since they will assume the costs of her flower girl dress and accessories. They will also be able to gauge if their little one is up to the task of walking down the aisle (sometimes, a young child might find all that attention a bit too overwhelming). Once you get the go-ahead from them, ask your prospective flower girl if she’ll do you the honor of being in your wedding. Consider giving her a small gift, like this picture book or this bride bear!
Say yes to (her little) dress
As the bride, you get to select the flower girl’s outfit and accessories. However, it’s always good to be mindful of budget and comfort–luckily, there are tons of adorable flower girl dresses out there at at a range of prices! Prepare to start drooling because flower girl dresses are the cutest things ever! Sometimes, flower girl dresses take quite a bit of lead time so start your search early and let her parents know as you soon as you decide on a style (and also let them know when they need to order it by). When it comes to sizing your flower girl, try to factor in a little room for growth. If she’s in between sizes, go up a size. In addition, you also get to choose her basket, as you’ll want to coordinate it with your wedding day style. Any floral aspects (like the petals that go in the basket or a flower crown) are covered by you though you might want to consider gifting the basket and any little jewelry you want her to wear to her as part of her wedding day thank-you present!
Understand her duties
Being a flower girl is a big job for such little girls! There’s more to it than meets the eye. Typically, your flower girl will get ready with you and your bridesmaids. You’ll probably want to have her hair done professionally in a cute, age-appropriate style. Then, she will participate in bridal photos with you and the other bridesmaids. At the wedding, she will walk down the aisle, often preceding you. She will carry her basket and sprinkle petals onto the ground. Of course, she doesn’t have to hold a basket. You can give her a sign that says “HERE COMES THE BRIDE”, a pompadour, mini-bouquet…anything that speaks to you! Once she arrives at the end of the aisle, you’ll probably want to have her sit down with her parents–standing through a service is a lot for a tiny tot. Afterwards, she’ll need to stay nearby for photos with you and your new Mr.
Keeping her happy
Children have lower capacities than their older counterparts so be sure to be realistic when it comes to your flower girl’s participation. During the wedding day, she’ll often be overseen by a parent or relative so you won’t have to mind her–but you might want to talk to your wedding planner about building some provisions for her into the timeline. While she’s getting ready with you and the bridal party, make sure she has some clear juice and snacks (think things that won’t make stain or result in sticky fingers, like Animal Crackers or granola bars). Also, arrange for her to have her day done after all the bridesmaids so her parent can bring her later as opposed to having her waiting around. You might also want to keep some distractions handy, such as a coloring book or even Moana cued up on an IPad so she has some entertainment prior to the wedding.
Sometimes, depending on their age, flower girls can cry, throw down their basket, or even decide just not to walk down the aisle. Don’t let it stress you out–she’s a little girl and kids do the darned’est things, as they say. No matter what happens, just laugh it off as childhood cuteness. It’s a big day and that can evoke a lot of emotions in a tiny child! And, no matter happens or how she acts, she’ll be part of your wedding day memories.
Even she doesn’t fully cooperate or she does something completely unexpected, smile! You love her just the way she is so embrace her for all her quirky cuteness at the wedding.